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assertiveness

August 2, 2006 at 11:05 pm · Filed under dating/relationships

I know we are all liberated women and all, and I’m all for gender equality, but come on, don’t hand me your business card and tell me to email you. That thing’s getting dropped like a rock in a swimming pool. Get some balls and just ask me for my number already. And then actually call.

Is this the typical bitchy girl behavior that men hate? Am I making it worse for you men out there? But really, if you man up and ask me for my number, I’ll woman up and probably give it to you just because you asked. Don’t give me this shit with the business cards. I don’t care where you work; that don’t impress me much. And I sure as hell am not gonna email you just to say “hey”. You completely slammed that door in your own face as soon as you handed me that business card.

Maybe it’s an Asian men thing. I’ve never had a white guy (or guy of any other race) hand me a business card. But you Asian men, you not only carry business cards on you at all times, but you hand them out to us hoping that we will email you. Come on now, haven’t we all perpetuated the socially-awkward-and-unassertive-Asian-nerd stereotype long enough? I know you’re better than that. You should know that too.

So go on now, be a big boy, just ask me out already. You’ll get a helluva lot farther than your business card ever did, ’cause I hate to say it, but that card’s going straight in the trash.

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Pandax wrote @ August 3rd, 2006 at 1:58 pm

I hate to generalize but I would say that it’s Asian men and somewhat any geeky guys who can be lacking in assertiveness. Isn’t it funny that as modern as we woman try to be we sill are old-fashioned about being pursued. :)

paula wrote @ August 4th, 2006 at 5:41 pm

it’s totally asian guys. but the instance i’m thinking of wasn’t in leiu of my being hit on. i’d just met these two guys who were friends of the girl i was walking with and they whip out these business cards (double-sided(!) Korean on one side, English on the other) like magic from seemingly no where. and shan i’m with you babe. i want a clear, concise: “i’d like to take you out sometime can i have your number?” i’ll almost certainly give it to him then… if only as a reward for doing it right. and if i say no, i hate that “laugh it off” shit. take it like a man and offer to walk me home anyway. chivalry should rule whether you think you’re gonna get in my pants or not. if you’re nice, maybe i’ll change my mind about the number…

Keltheyounger wrote @ August 8th, 2006 at 2:53 am

Maybe I should make some business cards for myself. I mean, I don’t work in industry, but I could make it a business card whose sole purpose is to be given to hotties. I’ll put weird stuff on there, like my website, birthsign, and three things I like in a woman. Maybe other guys should do that too, like have a business card and a “dating card” to give to hotties. Oh, but then they might accidentally switch them:
Cardholder: OK, any questions on the presentation?
Suit: What does your wanting “a girl who communicates her feelings well” have to do with foreign commodities exchanges???

:-)